Being a dad

Dads are not super hero , they are normal people with average intelligence and vulnerabilities. I don’t know why they are portrayed by our society as the role model the child needs to look up to. They have their own fuck ups and their past haunts them sometimes more than they think. Every dad was a boy one day ! He was a teenager, he became a man, and did the same shit or mistakes which a kid expects from his/her age group but not from his dad. He is also another emotional character which always wants to do right and in hind-sight most of his actions tend to be foolish or impulsive.

He wants the best for the kid but being “a man", he is not great at expressing his emotions or sometimes it’s just the male ego which keeps him away from crossing that chasm with the kids.

When the kid is young, he/she believes their dad as a superhero and has huge expectations for this non-marvel character. Carried by his super hero image and the huge burden of expectations, this superhero is always under the conflict and wants to maintain the image — the image with which he is perceived by his kids and not what he actually is. His vulnerabilities and his human side constantly push him to do things which taint his imagery.

He is perceived to be pristine, free of human errors and a person who can solve everything under the sun — the reality is — he is as stupid and as vulnerable as any other guy.

In this constant pressure, he forgets who he is and tries to keep a facade, which is, how he is being perceived. Trust me, he does that, not under pressure but to live to the expectations of those whom he loves unconditionally.

When birds dont find their nest, or fail to find the nest they deserve — this joker becomes a super evil or reason for their fuck ups.

I am a son of someone and father of 2, still struggling to understand the meaning of being a dad.